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Forty Ethical (Akhlaq) Points on Interacting with your Child<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Give gifts to your daughter(s) first.
\n2. Play with your children.[389] This has an important effect in the training and nurturing of your child. Our leaders in Islam have stressed the importance of this issue, and recommended it highly to Muslims.
\nIt is narrated from the Prophet (s): \u201cThe person who has a child, should behave like a child with him.\u201d[390] It is also narrated from Im\u0101m \u2018Al\u012b (as): \u201cAnybody who has a child, should, for his\/her training, bring themselves down to their level of childhood.\u201d[391]
\n3. Do not hit your child when they cry, because it is narrated from the Prophet (s): \u201cDo not hit your babies since their crying has a meaning. The first 4 months of crying is professing the unity of All\u0101h (swt), the second 4 months of crying is sending blessings upon the Prophet (s) and his family and the third 4 months of crying is the baby praying for the parents.\u201d[392]
\n4. Kiss your child. It has been narrated from one of the Im\u0101ms that: \u201cKiss your children a great deal because for every kiss, you will be granted a Divine heavenly rank which would otherwise take 500 years to achieve!\u201d[393]
\nIt is also narrated that a man once came to the Prophet (s) and said: \u201cI have never kissed my child.\u201d The Prophet (s) said: \u201cSurely a man like this will be a resident of the fire of hell.\u201d
\n5. By saying Sal\u0101m to your child, build their sense of personality and character. If youngsters say Sal\u0101m, it is obligatory for elders to reply; however, it was a characteristic of the Prophet (s) to say Sal\u0101m first, whether to elders or youngsters.[394]
\n6. Do not ridicule the actions of your child, nor call them silly.
\n7. Do not order or forbid your child too much, as this emboldens them and leads to rebellious behaviour when older.
\n8. Build your children\u2019s characters by respecting them. We read in traditions that the Prophet (s) prolonged his sajdah until his grandson came down from his shoulders, and at other times he recited Sal\u0101t al-Jam\u0101\u2019at faster as he heard children of praying mothers crying. Likewise, Im\u0101m \u2018Al\u012b (as) used to ask his children questions about religious matters in the presence of others, and even passed on people\u2019s questions to them to answer.
\nWhen parents don\u2019t satisfy the natural urges and desires of the child, the child then resorts to wrong ways and means (often linked to sin) to try and give himself the necessary push to build his sense of self and importance. Personality, independence, will, self-trust, and likewise, weakness, baseness and lack of self-trust are all characteristics the foundations of which are in the lap of the father and bosom of the mother. A child who has not been treated like another human being or a valuable member of the family cannot be expected to have a well formed personality in adulthood.
\n9. Keep your promises. Keeping promises in Islam is a sign of one\u2019s faith, and All\u0101h (swt) mentions it in the Qur\u2019an.
\n\u0648\u064e\u0623\u064e\u0648\u0652\u0641\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u0628\u0650\u0627\u0644\u0652\u0639\u064e\u0647\u0652\u062f\u0650 \u0625\u0650\u0646\u0651\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0652\u0639\u064e\u0647\u0652\u062f\u064e \u0643\u064e\u0627\u0646\u064e \u0645\u064e\u0633\u0652\u0624\u064f\u0648\u0644\u0627\u064b<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cAnd fulfil the covenants; indeed all covenants are accountable.\u201d[395]
\n\u0648\u064e\u0627\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0630\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0647\u064f\u0645\u0652 \u0644\u0650\u0623\u064e\u0645\u064e\u0627\u0646\u064e\u0627\u062a\u0650\u0647\u0650\u0645\u0652 \u0648\u064e\u0639\u064e\u0647\u0652\u062f\u0650\u0647\u0650\u0645\u0652 \u0631\u064e\u0627\u0639\u064f\u0648\u0646\u064e<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cAnd those who keep their trusts and covenants.\u201d[396]
\nKeeping promises is one of the pillars of the prosperity of mankind and one of the best qualities of one\u2019s Akhl\u0101q, its base lying in one\u2019s raising and training. It is narrated from the Prophet (s): \u201cLike your children and treat them with affection and kindness. When you make a promise to them, you must keep it, because children consider you their sustainer.\u201d[397]
\n10. For the sexual training of children, the parents must first teach their children not to enter their bedroom without asking permission. All\u0101h (swt) has pointed to this important point in Surat N\u016br, Verse 58:
\n\u064a\u064e\u0627 \u0623\u064e\u064a\u0651\u064f\u0647\u064e\u0627 \u0627\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0630\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0622\u0645\u064e\u0646\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u0644\u0650\u064a\u064e\u0633\u0652\u062a\u064e\u0623\u0652\u0630\u0650\u0646\u064f\u0643\u064f\u0645\u064f \u0627\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0630\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0645\u064e\u0644\u064e\u0643\u064e\u062a\u0652 \u0623\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0645\u064e\u0627\u0646\u064f\u0643\u064f\u0645\u0652 \u0648\u064e\u0627\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0630\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0644\u064e\u0645\u0652 \u064a\u064e\u0628\u0652\u0644\u064f\u063a\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u0627\u0644\u0652\u062d\u064f\u0644\u064f\u0645\u064e \u0645\u0650\u0646\u0643\u064f\u0645\u0652 \u062b\u064e\u0644\u0627\u064e\u062b\u064e \u0645\u064e\u0631\u0651\u064e\u0627\u062a\u064d \u0645\u0650\u0646 \u0642\u064e\u0628\u0652\u0644\u0650 \u0635\u064e\u0644\u0627\u064e\u0629\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0652\u0641\u064e\u062c\u0652\u0631\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u062d\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u062a\u064e\u0636\u064e\u0639\u064f\u0648\u0646\u064e \u062b\u0650\u064a\u064e\u0627\u0628\u064e\u0643\u064f\u0645 \u0645\u0651\u0650\u0646\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0638\u0651\u064e\u0647\u0650\u064a\u0631\u064e\u0629\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0645\u0650\u0646\u0652 \u0628\u064e\u0639\u0652\u062f\u0650 \u0635\u064e\u0644\u0627\u064e\u0629\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0652\u0639\u0650\u0634\u064e\u0627\u0621 \u062b\u064e\u0644\u0627\u064e\u062b\u064f \u0639\u064e\u0648\u0652\u0631\u064e\u0627\u062a\u064d \u0644\u0651\u064e\u0643\u064f\u0645\u0652<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cO you who have faith! Let your permission be sought by your slaves and those of you who have not reached puberty three times: before the dawn prayer, and when you put off your garments at noon, and after the night prayer. These are three times of privacy for you.\u201d
\nIt is also recommended to keep a close watch and control over their actions with others and prevent those actions that increase one\u2019s sexual instinct (e.g. going out in mixed gatherings). It is important to mention that their curiosity is very high in childhood. In addition, they are very sensitive to what they watch and see, and fearlessly want to put it into action and try it out for themselves, without knowing or thinking that what they are doing may not be right.<\/p>\n

Some useful points to be noted<\/strong><\/span>
\na. Mothers should be careful that when tending to the cleanliness of their children (e.g. giving them baths), even newborns, other children are not present, especially those who are of a different gender.
\nb. From childhood, parents should not play with the child\u2019s genital organs, or even their chest and thighs.
\nc. Never leave children alone or in private for long periods of time and when they are going through an inquisitive phase. It is also not recommended to leave them unattended with someone else during this time, especially a brother or sister.
\nd. Do not let girls of 6 years sit on a non-mahram man\u2019s lap or be kissed by non-mahram men.
\ne. Do not let girls be naked in front of others. In particular, their chests and thighs should be covered.
\nf. Create love for Sal\u0101t in your child, as All\u0101h (swt) clearly states in the Noble Qur\u2019an that Sal\u0101t makes one far from ugly acts.
\n\u0625\u0650\u0646\u0651\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0635\u0651\u064e\u0644\u0627\u064e\u0629\u064e \u062a\u064e\u0646\u0652\u0647\u064e\u0649 \u0639\u064e\u0646\u0650 \u0627\u0644\u0652\u0641\u064e\u062d\u0652\u0634\u064e\u0627\u0621\u0650 \u0648\u064e\u0627\u0644\u0652\u0645\u064f\u0646\u0643\u064e\u0631\u0650<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cIndeed the prayer prevents indecencies and wrongs.\u201d[398]
\n11. Spoiling a child creates weakness, and a lack of will and determination. These types of children trouble their parents in their childhood, and make them encounter many problems.<\/p>\n

The spoilt children themselves face two types of problems<\/strong><\/span>
\na. They have expectations that the rest of society will, like their parents, comfort and respect them no matter what, and carry out their wishes without any questions. When they realise that people will not only not do this, but will also ridicule these expectations, they become upset and feel humiliated and debased.
\nb. Such experiences form the base of contempt and make them angry, aggressive, lacking patience and weak. They become the type of people who think low of others and treat them with harsh words and actions.
\n12. Nothing silences the sense of self-trust in a child more than forcing him to do things they may not have the capability of doing. This is especially the case when, if the child is unsuccessful, it is followed by belittling statements like: \u201cDon\u2019t bother trying, you can\u2019t, you don\u2019t have the capability.\u201d
\n13. Pray for your children, both during pregnancy and afterwards.[399]
\n14. Reminders and requests should be given with gentleness and softness so as not to create a barrier between parents and child. One day, Im\u0101m Husain (as) called his children and his brother\u2019s children together and said to them: \u201cAll of you are the children of today\u2019s society and, it is hoped, the leaders of tomorrow\u2019s society. So learn and make efforts in the acquisition of knowledge, and whoever does not have a good memory and cannot memorise the subjects taught by the teacher in teaching sessions, (should) write them down and keep them at home.\u201d Thus we see that the Im\u0101m created the love of acquiring knowledge in them without using techniques like scaring or forcing them, but by making them understand that knowledge is the path to honour and esteem.
\n15. If your child is respected, he\/she is less likely to rebel against the rules of the house. Respect and good interaction between parent and child are the bases in forming the child\u2019s character. It is narrated from the Prophet (s): \u201cRespect your children and talk to them with (good) manners and a likeable method.\u201d
\n16. A good role model is someone who adjusts their children\u2019s desires wisely and with the correct techniques.
\n17. Foster the faith of your child. Children that have been raised from the beginning with faith in All\u0101h (swt) have a strong will and powerful soul and from their early years are mature and courageous; this is easily observed by their actions and words. The readiness of the soul of a child to learn faith and Akhl\u0101q is like fertile ground in which any type of seed can grow. Therefore, parents should teach their child love for All\u0101h (swt) and the Ahlul Bayt (as) and leaders of Islam from the earliest opportunities.
\nIt is narrated from Im\u0101m as-S\u0101diq (as): \u201cTeach traditions to your children as soon as possible, before opposers (to your beliefs) reach them before you do.\u201d[400]
\nIn traditions, parents who do not take the future life (aakhirat) of their children into consideration are reproached. It is narrated that the Prophet (s)\u2019s gaze fell on some children and he said: \u201cWoe upon the children of the end of time (before the coming of the 12th Im\u0101m) because of the disliked methods of their fathers.\u201d It was asked of him: \u201cOh Prophet (s) of All\u0101h (swt)! Because of their polytheistic fathers?\u201d He replied, \u201cNo, because of their Muslim fathers who didn\u2019t teach their children any religious duties. They were content with worthless material things for them. I am weary and exempt of such people\u2026\u201d[401]
\nIt is said that in communist Russia, they used to eliminate the existence of God from the ground roots level; for example, when a child was hungry or thirsty their parents would let them cry and say to them, \u201cAsk God to provide for you.\u201d When the children would do this, and still remain hungry and thirsty, they used to say to them, \u201cSee, you cried to God he gave you nothing! Now ask Lenin (the Russian leader) to provide for you!\u201d When the children would do this, then only would they give them food and drink. The effect of this was that it was instilled in the children from childhood that God doesn\u2019t exist through this very deluded manner. This same concept is condemned in Surat Y\u0101s\u012bn, Verse 47:
\n\u0642\u064e\u0627\u0644\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0630\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0643\u064e\u0641\u064e\u0631\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u0644\u0650\u0644\u0651\u064e\u0630\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064e \u0622\u0645\u064e\u0646\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u0623\u064e\u0646\u064f\u0637\u0652\u0639\u0650\u0645\u064f \u0645\u064e\u0646\u0652 \u0644\u0651\u064e\u0648\u0652 \u064a\u064e\u0634\u064e\u0622\u0621\u064f \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0651\u064c\u0647\u064f \u0623\u064e\u0637\u0652\u0639\u064e\u0645\u064e\u0647\u064f \u0625\u0650\u0646\u0652 \u0623\u064e\u0646\u0652\u0640\u062a\u064f\u0645\u0652 \u0625\u0650\u0644\u0627\u0651\u064e \u0641\u0650\u064a \u0636\u064e\u0644\u0627\u064e\u0644\u064d \u0645\u0651\u064f\u0628\u0650\u064a\u0646\u064d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThe faithless say to the faithful, \u2018Shall we feed (someone) whom All\u0101h (swt) would have fed, had He wished? You are only in manifest error.\u2019\u201d
\nHowever, this is a wonderful lesson to us as to how All\u0101h (swt) should be introduced to a child from young age. Whenever a child gets to that age that he understands that whenever they desire something they need to ask their parents, their parents should ask them first to ask from All\u0101h (swt). Then when they provide the desired object, they should stress that it reached them through the blessings of All\u0101h (swt). Thus, as they grow up, they will be able to see All\u0101h (swt) as the underlying principal behind every action.
\n18. Stay away from wrist-grabbing and bossy behaviour with children.
\n19. One of the duties of parents is to foster the innate nature of telling the truth in children. Their behaviour in the house should be such that this becomes a habit. However, this is one of the more difficult areas of raising a child and attention to knowledge and action is very important.
\nIt is narrated in a tradition from the Prophet (s): \u201cMay All\u0101h (swt) have mercy on the person that helps his child in (doing) good.\u201d The narrator of the tradition asked: \u201cHow?\u201d In his reply, the Prophet (s) gave 4 instructions:
\na. Whatever the child has in his power and has carried out, accept it.
\nb. Don\u2019t expect that which is hard for him.
\nc. Prevent him from sin.
\nd. Don\u2019t lie to him, or do silly things.
\n20. Do not use fear as a method of raising your child, as this causes damage to their personality and leads to psychological problems. In particular, excess punishment by the mother weakens the relationship and value that the child has for his mother in his heart. Often a look or silence can be more effective in making the child understand their mistake than hitting them or scaring them.
\n21. Cuddling and kissing a child is one of their soul-foods, and it is necessary that enough of this is given to them. One of the reasons that a child is crying may be that they are thirsty for this expression of love. Children who grow up with plenty of love have confident personalities which are not swayed by the difficulties that crop up in life.
\nIt is narrated from Im\u0101m as-S\u0101diq (as): \u201cCertainly All\u0101h (swt) shows mercy upon His servants who have strong love for their offspring.\u201d[402] It is also narrated from the Im\u0101m: \u201cProphet M\u016bs\u0101 (as) said the following to All\u0101h (swt) when he was on the mountain of Tur: \u201cO All\u0101h (swt)! Which act is the best one according to you?\u201d All\u0101h (swt) replied: \u201cLoving children is the best act.\u201d\u201c
\n22. Parents have a responsibility to make their children understand the indecency of sin and create an aversion for people who partake in this, and likewise, to reproach the bad and encourage the child\u2019s good actions. However, reproach and admiration has its time and place and should not be overdone as this itself can corrupt a child.
\n23. The beds of children of 6 years and above should be separated from each other, even if they are both daughters or both sons.[403]
\n24. As well as the natural characteristics that the child inherits from his parents, the environment and Nurture of the child have a profound effect. It is highly unlikely that in a family that does not function properly, a normal and natural child is raised.
\nIn particular, the instructions of parents only have an effect if the parents lead by example. The first step of raising children is the Nurture of the self. Somebody who does not possess good Akhl\u0101q cannot guide another to this, and similarly, hot-tempered parents cannot usually raise a calm and patient child.
\nChildren need to be taught that characteristics such as lying, back-biting, bad language, etc. are disliked, and naturally, the child will refrain from such when the parents themselves have set such examples.
\n25. There should be a difference in the order and expectations of the behaviour of a child inside the home, and out. At home, allow the child to play freely.
\n26. Always bear the unexpected behaviour of your child to a limit and do not always take the mistakes of your chid to be unforgivable, so that you are not always compelled to punish. Patience, coping and forgiveness are a must when raising children. If your child has a quality that you do not like, it should be corrected in a wise manner without displaying contempt of the child, and the correct manner of doing things should be shown at the same time as stopping him\/her from old ways.
\nWhen parents constantly tell the child off, they are belittling the child and not only are they not going to be successful in reforming the child, but are also going to create stubbornness in them. It is narrated from Im\u0101m \u2018Al\u012b (as): \u201cExcess reproach fuels the fire of stubbornness.\u201d[404]
\n27. When instructing your child, don\u2019t mention the names of other children constantly, or compare them with others.
\n28. Stories are a useful and important method of encouraging good qualities and characteristics, and discouraging bad ones, such as the rights of friends, faith, etc. The Noble Qur\u2019an uses this method to do the same as mentioned in Surat Y\u016bsuf, Verse 111:
\n\u0644\u064e\u0642\u064e\u062f\u0652 \u0643\u064e\u0627\u0646\u064e \u0641\u0650\u064a \u0642\u064e\u0635\u064e\u0635\u0650\u0647\u0650\u0645\u0652 \u0639\u0650\u0628\u0652\u0631\u064e\u0629\u064c \u0644\u0651\u0650\u0623\u064f\u0648\u0644\u0650\u064a \u0627\u0644\u0623\u064e\u0644\u0652\u0628\u064e\u0627\u0628\u0650<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThere is certainly a moral in their accounts for those who possess intellect.\u201d
\nIt is important to keep the following in mind when selecting stories:
\na. They should mention All\u0101h (swt) in some form or the other, and be narrated with the intention of Nurturing the personality and characteristics of your child.
\nb. Attention should be paid to the child\u2019s age, intelligence and mental state when choosing a story.
\nc. There shouldn\u2019t be extremes, or lies or rumours far from the truth in the stories.
\nd. They should contain answers to the questions of the child.
\ne. The best stories should be chosen, just as All\u0101h (swt) has stated in Surat Y\u016bsuf, Verse 3:
\n\u0646\u064e\u062d\u0652\u0646\u064f \u0646\u064e\u0642\u064f\u0635\u0651\u064f \u0639\u064e\u0644\u064e\u064a\u0652\u0643\u064e \u0623\u064e\u062d\u0652\u0633\u064e\u0646\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0652\u0642\u064e\u0635\u064e\u0635\u0650<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWe will recount to you the best of narratives.\u201d
\nf. Truth and righteousness should always prevail in the stories.
\ng. The main character (who is the role model) of the stories should not possess deviations or bad characteristics.
\nh. The stories should not be too lengthy or tiring for the child.
\n29. The mischievousness of your child in the early years is a sign of increased intelligence in the older years, so you shouldn\u2019t be too worried or punish it too much.
\n30. Make your children perform Sal\u0101t from 7 years, and fast from 9 years, either half day or more or less, depending on their abilities.
\nIt is narrated from Im\u0101m as-S\u0101diq (as): \u201cWhen our children reach 5 years of age, we tell them to pray Sal\u0101t, so you tell your children to do this when they reach 7 years of age; and we tell our chidren at the age of 7 years to fast however much they have the ability to, half a day, or more, or less, and to break their fast when they become hungry or thirsty so that they get used to fasting and develop the ability for it, so you tell your children at the age of 9 years to fast however much they have the ability for, and when thirst overcomes them, to break their fast.\u201d[405] and [406]
\nIt is also narrated in a tradition: \u201cWe command our children to (do) the tasbih of Hadrat F\u0101tima, just like we command them to (pray) Sal\u0101t.\u201d[407]
\nIt is important to remember that in acts of worship, just like everything else, there should be moderation. It is narrated from the Prophet (s): \u201cIslam is the firm religion of All\u0101h (swt). Go forth with moderateness and don\u2019t do something that will make your heart pessimistic to the worship of All\u0101h (swt).\u201d[408]
\n31. Do not be quick to accuse your children of lying because until 5 years, real lying or lying out of self-interest is rare; rather it is due to their active imagination, related to playing or creating astonishment in others, or to the child\u2019s exploration of the self.
\n32. Do not condemn a child who has tired you with their questions, as this weakens their sense of curiousity.
\n33. Try not to quarrel, especially in front of the child, as this troubles them greatly and affects their personality.
\n34. Children have a particular fear of the word death, especially death of their mother or father. Therefore, where it is not necessary, don\u2019t speak constantly of your death, or the like. However, do teach your child the truth about death, clearly and calmly and without eliciting fear.
\n35. Find out about your child\u2019s talents and develop these as much as possible.
\n36. In terms of wordly aspects, do not over-saturate your child so that they go on the wrong path, nor under do it, as both these methods are dangerous.
\n37. The single most important cause of the happiness of the child is the kindness of the parents. No other quality can create happiness and calmness in a child like love, and likewise, no other quality can disturb and trouble a child like the lack of affection from the parents.
\nChildren of parents who are successful in this area try their best to please their parents and stay away from actions that will displease and trouble them, both in their childhood and when they are older. Therefore, love and affection not only satisfies the needs of the child but ensures their obedience.
\nAll\u0101h (swt) has referred to this impact of kindness in the Noble Qur\u2019an, in Surat \u0100li-\u2018Imr\u0101n, Verse 159:
\n\u0641\u064e\u0628\u0650\u0645\u064e\u0627 \u0631\u064e\u062d\u0652\u0645\u064e\u0629\u064d \u0645\u0651\u0650\u0646\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0644\u0651\u064c\u0647\u0650 \u0644\u0650\u0646\u062a\u064e \u0644\u064e\u0647\u064f\u0645\u0652 \u0648\u064e\u0644\u064e\u0648\u0652 \u0643\u064f\u0646\u062a\u064e \u0641\u064e\u0638\u0651\u064b\u0627 \u063a\u064e\u0644\u0650\u064a\u0638\u064e \u0627\u0644\u0652\u0642\u064e\u0644\u0652\u0628\u0650 \u0644\u0627\u064e\u0646\u0641\u064e\u0636\u0651\u064f\u0648\u0627 \u0645\u0650\u0646\u0652 \u062d\u064e\u0648\u0652\u0644\u0650\u0643\u064e<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cIt is by All\u0101h (swt)\u2019s mercy that you are gentle to them; and had you been harsh and hardhearted, surely they would have scattered from around you.\u201d
\nIt is important to note that there should not be extremes; too much love, just like too little, is destructive to the child; therefore practise the middle path and raise your child in such a manner that they are able to stand on their own two feet when older. It is narrated from Im\u0101m as-S\u0101diq (as): \u201cThe worst fathers are those who, in their goodness and love towards their child, go over the limits and incline to excesses.\u201d[409]
\n38. It is important that the parents give freedom and independence to their children according to their capabilities, so that they develop their initiative, innate independence and self-trust. At the same time, one must be careful not to exceed the limits so that children bring harm to themselves.
\nSome parents, either to free themselves of their responsibilities or because of misplaced love, leave their children completely to their own devices; however, before long, the child grows up without knowing anything of their responsibilities in the house, or otherwise. It is at this point parents try to instil this in their children, not surprisingly without any effect.
\nOther parents however, do the opposite and do not give their children enough opportunities to lead their own activities, constantly interfering in what their children are doing and how. Both are wrong and have negative consequences.
\n39. Raising your child properly is one of the responsibilities of a parent, and lack of attention to this responsibility is a cause of reproach of the Im\u0101ms.[410] One should try their best through various ways to create the love of All\u0101h (swt) and the Ahlul Bayt (as), so that the child follows the right path. Insofar as the requisite of love is acquaintance and knowledge, one should try their best to instil this in their children.[411]
\n40. Teach your children the Qur\u2019an. Recitation of Qur\u2019an in the home spreads the superior words of the truth and reality of Islam. Being in an environment where one is familiar with the Noble Qur\u2019an, listens to the recitation of the Noble Qur\u2019an and acts upon the instructions of the Noble Qur\u2019an, has a strong effect on the child\u2019s life. Every time parents recite Qur\u2019an, children are encouraged to do the same and follow them in this habit. In particular, those children who have a naturally strong memory and are talented can easily memorise the Qur\u2019an, which will benefit them forever. [412]<\/p>\n

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